Well, ini kasusnya bukan di jenis binatang (contoh: monyet), tapi pada manusia.
Hari ini melihat sepasang cewe remaja lumayan gaul (berbingkai kacamata tebal hitam.. model-model gaul lha..) yang sedang makan di sebuah restoran, sambil berpegangan tangan. Langsung pikiran melayang ke arah yang bukan-bukan. Lesbi kah? Kalo dibilang bukan koq kenapa pegangan tangannya lama sekali (sampe bosen ngeliatinnya)? Kenapa tangan yang berpegangan sampai diangkat-angkat di atas piring?
Jadi teringat masa SMU, pas rame-rame bersama teman menunggu taksi di depan TA. Ada dua orang cowo yang berpegangan tangan duduk di bangku panjang yang juga menunggu taksi. Langsung kita bergosip (memang hobinya membicarakan kejelekan orang di depan orangnya, yang penting ngga kedengeran):
"homo tuh... homo..."
"huss.. jangan berpikiran yang nda-nda..."
"terus mereka ngapain lagi donk pegangan tangan?"
"sapa tau mereka lagi panco"
"hahahahha" <-- ketawa gede banget sampe-sampe dua orang itu noleh
Kalau cewe sih.. terkadang masih melihat ada yang berpegangan tangan, yang katanya "sahabat" atau "best-best-best friend" (inipun nda sampe diangkat-angkat di atas piring kaleee). Tapi kalo cowo? Wusssh... kesenggol aja bisa melotot, apalagi pegangan tangan.
Memang jaman berubah. Semakin besar koq rasanya semakin risih untuk berpegangan tangan sesama jenis. Rasanya dulu pas kecil hidup lebih sederhana. Pegangan tangan sesama jenis pun rasa-rasanya pernah. Pas disuruh membuat lingkaran besar dan lingkaran kecil sama pembina pramuka, atau ketika bermain kucing dan tikus. Apa mungkin jaman itu belum "pubic berbulu" (puber)? Tapi masa sih pertumbuhan bulu ada kaitannya dengan rasa risih (risih karena berbulu)?
Aneh memang, apakah dengan menjadi semakin dewasa, kita memerlukan ruang privasi yang semakin besar? <-- yang konsekuensi logisnya adalah kita menjadi semakin sendiri?
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Career change? Di umur segini?
Nemu post berikut di sebuah forum:
"Here's my heartfelt sharing about my similar situation:
I'll be 33 this yr and have been working in a dead-end job for almost 2 yrs.
Pay is really low, getting WAY below what my peers are getting (I just found this out accidentally today btw from a colleague), horrible dept politics, lots of backstabbing, my bosses do not appreciate my work and dun think much (if any at all) of me.
Contract is ending soon.
I am so disheartened, so discouraged. No words can possibly describe how despondent I feel.
Fortunately, I have saved up enough and will pursue further studies (Masters) fulltime at a local U after my contract ends.
I would still have to work part time to support myself, even though i still have savings to tide me over for a while.
Bold move at my age? You bet.
I could have just looked for another job but i choose to follow my heart and passion to pursue my studies in an area that is v close to my heart.
Hoping that this will pay off in a yr's time, when I get to move back into an industry that I regretfully stepped out from about 2 yrs back.
Was a mistake, and I told myself never to make that kind of mistake ever again.
I know that if and when i move back into that industry that i so love, the pay has always not been great but I know with my passion and strength in this area, i will do well and excel.
Rather than being stuck in a totally dead-end job with totally unappreciative bosses.
I really cannot allow myself to remain here, and i choose to do this even in such bad times
Because I know there will be blue skies ahead, esp so for ppl who persevere
I can only wait for it to happen to me."
Dibandingkan dengan si post-er:
Huff... di umur 25 menuju 26, dan masih belum menemukan kemapanan hidup. Huaaaa..... terkadang merasa iri hati dengan orang-orang yang bisa.
Alasan keluar dari pekerjaan pertama lebih ke masalah pribadi keluarga daripada masalah teknis dengan perusahaan (en ini yang bikin gw males menjelaskan kalo gw interview kerjaan baru).
"Here's my heartfelt sharing about my similar situation:
I'll be 33 this yr and have been working in a dead-end job for almost 2 yrs.
Pay is really low, getting WAY below what my peers are getting (I just found this out accidentally today btw from a colleague), horrible dept politics, lots of backstabbing, my bosses do not appreciate my work and dun think much (if any at all) of me.
Contract is ending soon.
I am so disheartened, so discouraged. No words can possibly describe how despondent I feel.
Fortunately, I have saved up enough and will pursue further studies (Masters) fulltime at a local U after my contract ends.
I would still have to work part time to support myself, even though i still have savings to tide me over for a while.
Bold move at my age? You bet.
I could have just looked for another job but i choose to follow my heart and passion to pursue my studies in an area that is v close to my heart.
Hoping that this will pay off in a yr's time, when I get to move back into an industry that I regretfully stepped out from about 2 yrs back.
Was a mistake, and I told myself never to make that kind of mistake ever again.
I know that if and when i move back into that industry that i so love, the pay has always not been great but I know with my passion and strength in this area, i will do well and excel.
Rather than being stuck in a totally dead-end job with totally unappreciative bosses.
I really cannot allow myself to remain here, and i choose to do this even in such bad times
Because I know there will be blue skies ahead, esp so for ppl who persevere
I can only wait for it to happen to me."
Dibandingkan dengan si post-er:
- "umur 33" vs umur gw sekarang: 25
- "pay is really low" vs my take-home-pay was NOT really low
- "horrible dept politics" = yes, me too
- "lots of backstabbing" = yes, but my back was stab-proof (tapi gw percaya kalo kepleset sedikit aja....)
- "my boss dun appreciate much and dun think much".... hmmm gw nda deh, untung dapet bos bae.
- "contract is ending soon", same with my case.
- "i have saved up enough and will pursue further studies (Masters) fulltime at a local U after my contract ends", my case: i have saved enough and will pursue further studies fulltime at foreign U <-- ga jadi beli mobil deh... tapi gpp.... mobil is soo last year, kita kan harus go green!
- "i would still have to work part time to support myself", same goes for me. Walaupun tingkat urgensinya nda begitu tinggi. Tapi berusaha untuk memaksa diri untuk mengatakan harus. Bagi gw urgensi-nya bukan di urusan duid, tapi lebih ke pengenalan terhadap budaya kerja asing (bahasa, etos kerja, dll). Kalo dipecat pas kerja part-time mah santaaiii.... (asal bukan karena nyolong aja).. tapi kalo dipecat pas kerja full-time? Wah repot ini.
- "i could have just looked for another job but i choose to follow my heart and passion to pursue my studies in an area that is v close to my heart", sayangnya untuk gw.. I don't know where my passion and heart are. Alasan untuk kembali ke sekolah semata-mata karena dulu pas kerja sering berpikiran "aaarrrggghh... mestinya ini bisa di-automatisasi".
Huff... di umur 25 menuju 26, dan masih belum menemukan kemapanan hidup. Huaaaa..... terkadang merasa iri hati dengan orang-orang yang bisa.
Alasan keluar dari pekerjaan pertama lebih ke masalah pribadi keluarga daripada masalah teknis dengan perusahaan (en ini yang bikin gw males menjelaskan kalo gw interview kerjaan baru).
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Celebrating Small Achievements
In a good mood today (tonight). Really, just series of small events which can brighten up the day. As any jobless person, I also embrace the same principle, you have to boast anything that sells! And on the positive side, to always remind self to maintain the winning streak.
My BMI(Body Mass Index) is 22.79(weight: 71.4 kgs, height: 177 cms). It falls back to normal category! Wohoo wohoo... since my BMI on March 2008 was 26.17 which fell into overweight category. Even Ridho said "Hey.. you look fatter" (very sensitive indeed) when I was meeting him to hand over IF01's wedding trophy.
The problem with my weight is yoyo-ing syndrome. It can go up and down in just few months or so. On my first year at ITB, I lost 22 kgs in total (from 86 to 62). Even my mom was afraid that I started using narcotics or something like that. In facts it was result from laborous "orientation" activities.
And now, my personal goal is to reach BMI: 20! Sigh, nearly 3 points more to go, and it means to cut my weight to 65 kgs. To make things worse, this damned country has implemented revision on BMI range (people here are really.. really ..heavily addicted to sports) which makes the healthy BMI range: 18-22.9 from standard: 18.5-25.
The second event is... another person said that my English is good! Bwahahahaha.... up until now, he is the third person who have said such remarks. For me myself, truthfully I feel quite surprised since I still make numerous mistake here and there, and sometimes make me want to slap myself. On one ocassion I even combined three different languages in one sentence:
X : XXXXXXXXXXX (in chinese)
Me: But 不是 今天 kan? (I wanted to say "tapi bukan hari ini kan?").
Plak..plak..plak... so stupid (I was sooooo embarrased)! I even added "kan" Indonesian particle in the end of the sentence.
The credits for my English should go to my former working place: NSN. It was indeed the main reason why I choosed to work for Siemens: to train my English! Since when I graduated, I didn't have much confidence in my English due to lack of opportunity for using it. And with NSN, as I had expected before, I just had to talk, read, debate, and do presentation in English.
To tell the truth, I really..really.. miss working with NSN. It was such a great, vibrant, and fun working environment. Up until now, on some ocassion they still contacted me, we chatted and surprisingly we still laughed together. And to think that now I have friends accross all parts of Southern Sumatera(Palembang, Bengkulu, Lampung, Bangka Belitung, Jambi), Batam, Bali, Padang, Medan, that's just awesome!
My BMI(Body Mass Index) is 22.79(weight: 71.4 kgs, height: 177 cms). It falls back to normal category! Wohoo wohoo... since my BMI on March 2008 was 26.17 which fell into overweight category. Even Ridho said "Hey.. you look fatter" (very sensitive indeed) when I was meeting him to hand over IF01's wedding trophy.
The problem with my weight is yoyo-ing syndrome. It can go up and down in just few months or so. On my first year at ITB, I lost 22 kgs in total (from 86 to 62). Even my mom was afraid that I started using narcotics or something like that. In facts it was result from laborous "orientation" activities.
And now, my personal goal is to reach BMI: 20! Sigh, nearly 3 points more to go, and it means to cut my weight to 65 kgs. To make things worse, this damned country has implemented revision on BMI range (people here are really.. really ..heavily addicted to sports) which makes the healthy BMI range: 18-22.9 from standard: 18.5-25.
The second event is... another person said that my English is good! Bwahahahaha.... up until now, he is the third person who have said such remarks. For me myself, truthfully I feel quite surprised since I still make numerous mistake here and there, and sometimes make me want to slap myself. On one ocassion I even combined three different languages in one sentence:
X : XXXXXXXXXXX (in chinese)
Me: But 不是 今天 kan? (I wanted to say "tapi bukan hari ini kan?").
Plak..plak..plak... so stupid (I was sooooo embarrased)! I even added "kan" Indonesian particle in the end of the sentence.
The credits for my English should go to my former working place: NSN. It was indeed the main reason why I choosed to work for Siemens: to train my English! Since when I graduated, I didn't have much confidence in my English due to lack of opportunity for using it. And with NSN, as I had expected before, I just had to talk, read, debate, and do presentation in English.
To tell the truth, I really..really.. miss working with NSN. It was such a great, vibrant, and fun working environment. Up until now, on some ocassion they still contacted me, we chatted and surprisingly we still laughed together. And to think that now I have friends accross all parts of Southern Sumatera(Palembang, Bengkulu, Lampung, Bangka Belitung, Jambi), Batam, Bali, Padang, Medan, that's just awesome!
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Love, made complicated
"Love" in English, "爱" in Mandarin, and "Cinta" in Indonesia. Still a great mystery(read: misery) to me.
In normal life I see love as:
However due to dire luck, problem would arise when on certain time-frame these conditions could not be satisfied.
example:
time-frame 1 : sexy(P) == true
time-frame 5: sexy(P) == false
Which would fail the love condition. Most of found cases are failed on faithful(P), or have money (P).
On investment terms we can define "time frames when these condition are not met" as local minima (we expect the situation can be better on future time-frames). We need evaluative method to determine that this local minima is not global minima. And again this differs from one person to another.
However, I stumbled upon this statement:
"When love dies, one hates in return.
Till we learn to love unconditionally, one fine day"
IF we love unconditionally: If true then love(me,P). That statement means I always love P, and never have to come into hate state. That will be wonderful! Since nobody want to hate nor to be hated.
On investment terms, I am going to invest any amount of resources and I will be satisfied with any result. Even if the result was not good in others terms, but since I satisfied with it, then I was happy!
This will be an utopic state.
Everyday in this busy world, a lot of us are struggling to find our love from thousand of possibilites with any means of mechanism.
For me personally, I think I will stick to the classic approach (set of logical rules, investment model), and I can live with the hate part. But as the time goes by .. someday..sometime, I'm sure that I will have to relax the conditions and learn the unconditional way.
In normal life I see love as:
- Sets of logical rules which satisfy X condition : "if X then love(me,P)", whereas X is a logical statement such as "have a lot of money(P)", "buy me dinner(P)", or "cute(P)". Although the weighting factors are differs from one person, but the most used logical statements pretty much the same such as "sexy(you)", "have money(you)", etc.
- Investment rules. Where some amount of resources(time, money, kindness, etc) are put into use, and after some amount of time we expect return and of course profit from it. Furthermore certain target must be met inside defined targeted time-frame, for example: "kiss him/her on the X-th date". Otherwise the investment can be said as "not profitable" one and can be diverted.
However due to dire luck, problem would arise when on certain time-frame these conditions could not be satisfied.
example:
time-frame 1 : sexy(P) == true
time-frame 5: sexy(P) == false
Which would fail the love condition. Most of found cases are failed on faithful(P), or have money (P).
On investment terms we can define "time frames when these condition are not met" as local minima (we expect the situation can be better on future time-frames). We need evaluative method to determine that this local minima is not global minima. And again this differs from one person to another.
However, I stumbled upon this statement:
"When love dies, one hates in return.
Till we learn to love unconditionally, one fine day"
IF we love unconditionally: If true then love(me,P). That statement means I always love P, and never have to come into hate state. That will be wonderful! Since nobody want to hate nor to be hated.
On investment terms, I am going to invest any amount of resources and I will be satisfied with any result. Even if the result was not good in others terms, but since I satisfied with it, then I was happy!
This will be an utopic state.
Everyday in this busy world, a lot of us are struggling to find our love from thousand of possibilites with any means of mechanism.
For me personally, I think I will stick to the classic approach (set of logical rules, investment model), and I can live with the hate part. But as the time goes by .. someday..sometime, I'm sure that I will have to relax the conditions and learn the unconditional way.
Monday, February 09, 2009
镇静也是很美的歌：木槿花
第一个我听这个歌，一个人在房间里，我想很好听阿！但是没有英文的译文，所以这值得一试。
译文 (和拼音）：
朝开暮落的木槿花
zhao kai er mu luo de mu jin hua
(hibiscus flower blooms at morning and falls down at sunset)
月夜低头阿 心理想着他
yue ye di tou a. xin li xiang zhe ta
（on moonlight night bowing down head, thinking about him/her)
记忆着已经流失的那一段的光
ji yi zhe yi jing liu shi de na yi duan shi guang
（flow of past memories cease on this bright piece of time)
温柔的坚持 在月光下
wen rou de jian chi zai yue guang xia
(make gentle resolute under bright moonlight)
我是在异乡 遇见了他
wo shi zai yi xiang yu jian le ta
(I am at strange far away place, visiting him/her)
素颜犹未改阿 沉默不多话
su yan you wei gai a. chen mo bu duo hua
(familiar face who hasn't change at all, submerge in quietness and little conversation)
懑天闪烁星光 都窥探着它
men tian shan shuo xing guang dou kui tan zhe ta
(the sky full of sparkling stars, spying)
他乡遇知己 化解了惆怅
ta xiang yu zhi ji hua jie le chou chang
(on this far away place, understand self and cease the melancholy sadness)
我们都一样 都少了些潇洒
wo men dou yi yang dou shao le xie xiao sa
(we are the same, as little as sprinkling sound of rain)
所以在失落时 还守着优雅
suo yi zai shi luo shi hai shou zhe you ya
(therefore on losing time, we protect our elegant superiority)
我们都一样 都在原来地方
wo men dou yi yang dou zai yuan lai di fang
(we are the same, having origin from the same place)
记忆着那爱情来过的芬芳
ji yi zhe na ai qing lai guo de fen fang
(the familiar fragrance make us remember that love feeling)
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很难！如果有什么错，清告诉我。 我还要很多学习。
译文 (和拼音）：
朝开暮落的木槿花
zhao kai er mu luo de mu jin hua
(hibiscus flower blooms at morning and falls down at sunset)
月夜低头阿 心理想着他
yue ye di tou a. xin li xiang zhe ta
（on moonlight night bowing down head, thinking about him/her)
记忆着已经流失的那一段的光
ji yi zhe yi jing liu shi de na yi duan shi guang
（flow of past memories cease on this bright piece of time)
温柔的坚持 在月光下
wen rou de jian chi zai yue guang xia
(make gentle resolute under bright moonlight)
我是在异乡 遇见了他
wo shi zai yi xiang yu jian le ta
(I am at strange far away place, visiting him/her)
素颜犹未改阿 沉默不多话
su yan you wei gai a. chen mo bu duo hua
(familiar face who hasn't change at all, submerge in quietness and little conversation)
懑天闪烁星光 都窥探着它
men tian shan shuo xing guang dou kui tan zhe ta
(the sky full of sparkling stars, spying)
他乡遇知己 化解了惆怅
ta xiang yu zhi ji hua jie le chou chang
(on this far away place, understand self and cease the melancholy sadness)
我们都一样 都少了些潇洒
wo men dou yi yang dou shao le xie xiao sa
(we are the same, as little as sprinkling sound of rain)
所以在失落时 还守着优雅
suo yi zai shi luo shi hai shou zhe you ya
(therefore on losing time, we protect our elegant superiority)
我们都一样 都在原来地方
wo men dou yi yang dou zai yuan lai di fang
(we are the same, having origin from the same place)
记忆着那爱情来过的芬芳
ji yi zhe na ai qing lai guo de fen fang
(the familiar fragrance make us remember that love feeling)
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很难！如果有什么错，清告诉我。 我还要很多学习。
Sunday, February 08, 2009
Why Men?
I was quite surprised to find this event: "Thunder from Down Under (M18)" on Sistic. The short description of the event:
"A FESTIVAL OF FLESH
Feel your temperature rise with the dynamic, fully choreographed performances by this internationally acclaimed male revue show as they tease with impressive physiques, a great sense of humour and oodles of sex appeal in solo performances and group routines during a sizzling hot 75-minute show. Lucky ladies at the show can also get up “close and personal” with these gorgeous hunks as audience interaction is part of the THUNDER experience.
The ever-popular troupe has performed to rave reviews and screaming female fans with thematic uniform ensembles from fireman to naval officer, and risqué dance moves that will spark off any woman’s fantasy.
"
The ticket price is quite steep starting on SGD 65. What the heck... and given it's location in Singapore, I'm quite sure these "hunks" won't strip down to bare and I dare to bet, you will only be able to see and won't be able to do the touching.
But the question is why men? From the first time I arrived here, I always have the feel that mostly the women here are out of shape and out of face (seriously, Indonesian girls are lot lot more prettier). Perhaps it has connection with porky diet here. They eat pork better than me!
In my dirtiest imagination: I went to a date with girl, and later on she ate bak-ku-teh and we did french-kissing afterwards <-- lost consciousness.
And for the men? I have to admit there are quite number of good featured men. The most famous one (and the hottest) could be Allan Wu, as the host of AXN's Amazing Race Asia. In Indonesia, when I went to gym and the Amazing Race Asia was being shown in the television, the girls were gossiping, wishing the host would loose the shirt =D. Notty.... I like that!
So why they need to import "hunks" from Australia? Weird...
And the other news from the land of the rising sun. It is another case with amateur documentary video, much similar like house of representative's member case in Indonesia. The country was shocked due to this scandal and more importantly because of the "interesting size" of -you-know-what-.
The star from the land of the rising sun is MMA (mixed martial arts) fighter Hayato "Mach" Sakurai. The news can be seen here. It is said that he slept with three different women, none of them were his wife. Super notttty (and hot also)...... It is the definitely the reason why men want to get married: so he can bang other women, since the rush is irreplacable!
For me myself, I wonder... if he really perform martial art style even in bed (and I can learn the trick of trade... hahahahaha). But for my disappointment the answer is no (still can find the video "floating" in P2P network).
Moral of the story is: learn from Sistic! I think I can figure out why we were failed in the past (applicable to number of friends). It is the business stupid!
"A FESTIVAL OF FLESH
Feel your temperature rise with the dynamic, fully choreographed performances by this internationally acclaimed male revue show as they tease with impressive physiques, a great sense of humour and oodles of sex appeal in solo performances and group routines during a sizzling hot 75-minute show. Lucky ladies at the show can also get up “close and personal” with these gorgeous hunks as audience interaction is part of the THUNDER experience.
The ever-popular troupe has performed to rave reviews and screaming female fans with thematic uniform ensembles from fireman to naval officer, and risqué dance moves that will spark off any woman’s fantasy.
"
The ticket price is quite steep starting on SGD 65. What the heck... and given it's location in Singapore, I'm quite sure these "hunks" won't strip down to bare and I dare to bet, you will only be able to see and won't be able to do the touching.
But the question is why men? From the first time I arrived here, I always have the feel that mostly the women here are out of shape and out of face (seriously, Indonesian girls are lot lot more prettier). Perhaps it has connection with porky diet here. They eat pork better than me!
In my dirtiest imagination: I went to a date with girl, and later on she ate bak-ku-teh and we did french-kissing afterwards <-- lost consciousness.
And for the men? I have to admit there are quite number of good featured men. The most famous one (and the hottest) could be Allan Wu, as the host of AXN's Amazing Race Asia. In Indonesia, when I went to gym and the Amazing Race Asia was being shown in the television, the girls were gossiping, wishing the host would loose the shirt =D. Notty.... I like that!
So why they need to import "hunks" from Australia? Weird...
And the other news from the land of the rising sun. It is another case with amateur documentary video, much similar like house of representative's member case in Indonesia. The country was shocked due to this scandal and more importantly because of the "interesting size" of -you-know-what-.
The star from the land of the rising sun is MMA (mixed martial arts) fighter Hayato "Mach" Sakurai. The news can be seen here. It is said that he slept with three different women, none of them were his wife. Super notttty (and hot also)...... It is the definitely the reason why men want to get married: so he can bang other women, since the rush is irreplacable!
For me myself, I wonder... if he really perform martial art style even in bed (and I can learn the trick of trade... hahahahaha). But for my disappointment the answer is no (still can find the video "floating" in P2P network).
Moral of the story is: learn from Sistic! I think I can figure out why we were failed in the past (applicable to number of friends). It is the business stupid!
Saturday, February 07, 2009
Divorce-Polygamy?
Taken from channelnewsasia.com
"
Divorces up 10-fold in Indonesia due to greater awareness of women's rights
By Sujadi Siswo, Channel NewsAsia's Indonesia Bureau Chief | Posted: 04 February 2009 1424 hrs
JAKARTA: Greater democracy could be taking its toll on the world's most populous Muslim nation of 230 million people.
More marriages broke down in Indonesia in the last decade - after the country underwent political reform.
And some couples have cited political differences for the divorce.
In a Jakarta Post report, latest figures from Indonesia's Religious Affairs Ministry show that divorce cases have increased by 10 fold.
Out of two million marriages each year - 200,000 were annulled, up from just 20,000, 10 years ago.
Polygamy is the most cited reason for divorce - which officials say could be due to greater awareness of women's rights.
Rights groups have applauded the development which underlines the greater economic independence and higher education attained by Indonesian women.
- CNA/yb
"
It is easy to get married in Indonesia, since human value is well... cheap also, but it is extremely hard to maintain it.
In a rural part of Indonesia, I've seen girl as old as me, but already gotten married and divorced twice. It gave me hard hit in chest as I saw her sitting down in front of her house, while caring for her babies. In her very productive years, and that all she could do? Given the chance she might end up as rocket scientist.
After I've been exposed to different point of view, I must indeed acknowledge that polygamy is not as bad as it seems. But it should be practiced in a correct manner.
We have given some examples that polygamy was not practiced in its noble purpose: to develop compassion towards widows and orphans.
Let's take "king of dangdut" example, he conducted "nikah siri" with Angel Lelga who in my opinion is a way lot hotter than the king's first wife.
I still remember this interesting question asked by Maudy Kusnaedi on Metro TV to "successful grilled chicken restaurant owner": "Would you take prostitutes as your number X wife?" And the grilled-chicken-restaurant-owner answered "No".
So what's the point? Men only want to marry decent-religious-better looks-than-the-first-wife woman. That what exactly make "man is a jerk" term.
That will explain why "owner of pesantren in Bandung"'s reputation plunge into void when he was married to his second wife. Should his second wife is a widow, or older than his first wife, I think his popularity will soar up to kingdom come.
Cited the news above, I don't think this statement true: "Polygamy is the most cited reason for divorce - which officials say could be due to greater awareness of women's rights." Polygamy is the most cited reason because a lot of men who conduct it are simply jerks.
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Divorces up 10-fold in Indonesia due to greater awareness of women's rights
By Sujadi Siswo, Channel NewsAsia's Indonesia Bureau Chief | Posted: 04 February 2009 1424 hrs
JAKARTA: Greater democracy could be taking its toll on the world's most populous Muslim nation of 230 million people.
More marriages broke down in Indonesia in the last decade - after the country underwent political reform.
And some couples have cited political differences for the divorce.
In a Jakarta Post report, latest figures from Indonesia's Religious Affairs Ministry show that divorce cases have increased by 10 fold.
Out of two million marriages each year - 200,000 were annulled, up from just 20,000, 10 years ago.
Polygamy is the most cited reason for divorce - which officials say could be due to greater awareness of women's rights.
Rights groups have applauded the development which underlines the greater economic independence and higher education attained by Indonesian women.
- CNA/yb
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It is easy to get married in Indonesia, since human value is well... cheap also, but it is extremely hard to maintain it.
In a rural part of Indonesia, I've seen girl as old as me, but already gotten married and divorced twice. It gave me hard hit in chest as I saw her sitting down in front of her house, while caring for her babies. In her very productive years, and that all she could do? Given the chance she might end up as rocket scientist.
After I've been exposed to different point of view, I must indeed acknowledge that polygamy is not as bad as it seems. But it should be practiced in a correct manner.
We have given some examples that polygamy was not practiced in its noble purpose: to develop compassion towards widows and orphans.
Let's take "king of dangdut" example, he conducted "nikah siri" with Angel Lelga who in my opinion is a way lot hotter than the king's first wife.
I still remember this interesting question asked by Maudy Kusnaedi on Metro TV to "successful grilled chicken restaurant owner": "Would you take prostitutes as your number X wife?" And the grilled-chicken-restaurant-owner answered "No".
So what's the point? Men only want to marry decent-religious-better looks-than-the-first-wife woman. That what exactly make "man is a jerk" term.
That will explain why "owner of pesantren in Bandung"'s reputation plunge into void when he was married to his second wife. Should his second wife is a widow, or older than his first wife, I think his popularity will soar up to kingdom come.
Cited the news above, I don't think this statement true: "Polygamy is the most cited reason for divorce - which officials say could be due to greater awareness of women's rights." Polygamy is the most cited reason because a lot of men who conduct it are simply jerks.
Thursday, February 05, 2009
I am an Indonesian!
Geez.. why other people always have misconception about my home country?
Appearance
I was stopped twice by securities check at Chinatown MRT. I considered the first time as normal, since I was carrying mountain-climbing-backpack contains all the supplies I need from Indonesia (bed cover, body care and cosmetics supply). But the second time, it couldn't be normal, since I was only carrying normal school backpack.
So I after I opened my bag and showed the content, I asked (in mandarin):
Me: "Am I doing anything wrong?"
X :"No, no.. where are you come from?"
Me: "Indonesia"
X : "Ha... you're not from China?"
Me: "No, why?"
X : "I thought you're from China"
Me: " What's wrong with people from China"
X : "Lot of them are bad people"
What's wrong? In this heavily infested Chinese country, why they picked me to be the one from mainland China?
English
"Are you from Philippines?" I had been asked this question more than three times until current date. And the correct response would be "I thought you're from Philippines, your english is so Filipino alike." And one person even said "Your english doesn't sound like Indonesian."
Mandarin
This the only thing that undoubtly declares me as Indonesian! Even on such a simple remarks:
Me: "21st floor" (二十一楼）
X : "Aaaah from Indonesia are you?"
I just only said four words! Hahahaha... I understand now what my father had said before "People will not be able to hear your mandarin, the accent is so javanese."
Appearance
I was stopped twice by securities check at Chinatown MRT. I considered the first time as normal, since I was carrying mountain-climbing-backpack contains all the supplies I need from Indonesia (bed cover, body care and cosmetics supply). But the second time, it couldn't be normal, since I was only carrying normal school backpack.
So I after I opened my bag and showed the content, I asked (in mandarin):
Me: "Am I doing anything wrong?"
X :"No, no.. where are you come from?"
Me: "Indonesia"
X : "Ha... you're not from China?"
Me: "No, why?"
X : "I thought you're from China"
Me: " What's wrong with people from China"
X : "Lot of them are bad people"
What's wrong? In this heavily infested Chinese country, why they picked me to be the one from mainland China?
English
"Are you from Philippines?" I had been asked this question more than three times until current date. And the correct response would be "I thought you're from Philippines, your english is so Filipino alike." And one person even said "Your english doesn't sound like Indonesian."
Mandarin
This the only thing that undoubtly declares me as Indonesian! Even on such a simple remarks:
Me: "21st floor" (二十一楼）
X : "Aaaah from Indonesia are you?"
I just only said four words! Hahahaha... I understand now what my father had said before "People will not be able to hear your mandarin, the accent is so javanese."
Tuesday, February 03, 2009
Singapore's Sports Event 2009
(In Indonesia... biar ngga lupa en tetep gaoul!)
Jadi inget jaman kuliah
"Tek... gw mau ikutan triathlon someday!" (habis googling triathlon)
"Haaah!"
Tapi tetep namanya obsesi... biar uzur koq masih kepikiran juga. "Brain and brawn!"... semakin geek mestinya semakin sporty juga... hahahahaha!! Beside sebagai bujangan, I do really really need that sex appeal thing.
Jadi setelah melakukan sedikit riset, wah di sini banyak juga acara olahraga. Ngga kaya Indo... pantesan orangnya buncid-buncid. Maunya siiy... bruuum langsung daptar (tapi banyak yg udah tutup juga pendaptarannya... laku keras)! Tapi gimana kalo finish terakhir ya??? Malu2-in bangsa, negara, tanah air en keluarga? Langsung seppuku?
Kayanya sih... tahan2 dulu taon ini... sambil mempersiapkan diri... taon depan bruum...langsung daptar =D!
Sundown marathon
30 Mei 2009
Disponsori sama Adidas... slurp... pas daptar dapet kaos tanpa lengan Adidas (you wanna show those arms!), en pas finish dapet kaos lagi. Upside-nya lombanya malem .. jadi nda panas... downside-nya.. ini bener2 lari 42 km (matek... Jakarta-Tangerang aja 27+ km). PD? Well... lari selalu menjadi kelemahan gw, tapi pede siy bisa finish (di ITB lari pas matkul OR aja muntah, lari 2x muntah 2x) soale di-iming-imingi kaos adidas. Tapi pemikirannya gimana bekal di jalannya ya? Impossible kalo nda minum? Ato memang nda minum? Nah lho....
Safari Run
7 Feb 2009
Lari di kebon binatang! 6.2 km.... piece of cake ini mah... emang intended-nya buat family run. Sebenernya sih berminat.. sayang udah tutup pendaftarannya.
Vertical Marathon
8 Feb 2009
Lari naek gedong.....hahaha menarik2... jadi inget pas ikutan ospek klub pencinta alam di SMUK1... disuruh lari naek turun 7 lt (10++x kalo nda salah).. sampe kadang2 bawa tandu segala lagi. Need to get master degree on StairMaster neh.
SAFRA Biathlon
Organized also by Singapore Navy! SAFRA... hmm... sepertinya usaha pemerintah Singapura untuk membuat National Service (main reason why you DO NOT want to be a Singaporean) menjadi menarik. Since it is biathlon, lombanya cuma 2... lari 10km en berenang 1.5km. Hmm swim trialnya 1.5 km under 40 menit di kolam renang. Gw mah pede yang ini... bwahahahaha! Masalahnya berenangnya di mana ini euy? Laout? Bersih kaga? Entar keminum Freddie Mercury lagi. Jujur neh... gw belum pernah berenang di laut... hihihihi...
Tri-Factor
Hahahaha ini obsesi terbesar... triathlon! banyak pilihan paket... en berenangnya ada sampe 3km... good..good...good. Kayanya sih gw pingin ngambil yang 1km... pingin ngeliat gimana sih berenang di laut itu. Sayang euy udah nda ada sepeda lagi. Padahal di Indo udah latian RPM hampir tiap hari... hihihihi...Kurang komplid deh jadinya.
Obsesi terbesar berenang masih di NUS. Ada kompetisi "mudah2-an" taonan, berenang 5km di bawah 3 jam (untungnya di kolam renang). Fiuuh masih harus banyak latian... terjauh di ITB aja 4km. Kadang2 jadi bertanya2... orang laen udah bikin anak koq gw masih cebar cebur ya.... Memang susah kalo diri ini punya banyak obsesi... jadinya obesitas....
Credits to Gold's Gym SMS en my best buddy Erick yang udah maksa gw ikutan (pas berenti kerja: "Dy... kayanya lu perlu ikutan fitness deh... tuh di SMS baru buka"). It really helps with my "biasanya muntah activities" : running and cycling. I really miss classes, instructors, and people there.
Jadi inget jaman kuliah
"Tek... gw mau ikutan triathlon someday!" (habis googling triathlon)
"Haaah!"
Tapi tetep namanya obsesi... biar uzur koq masih kepikiran juga. "Brain and brawn!"... semakin geek mestinya semakin sporty juga... hahahahaha!! Beside sebagai bujangan, I do really really need that sex appeal thing.
Jadi setelah melakukan sedikit riset, wah di sini banyak juga acara olahraga. Ngga kaya Indo... pantesan orangnya buncid-buncid. Maunya siiy... bruuum langsung daptar (tapi banyak yg udah tutup juga pendaptarannya... laku keras)! Tapi gimana kalo finish terakhir ya??? Malu2-in bangsa, negara, tanah air en keluarga? Langsung seppuku?
Kayanya sih... tahan2 dulu taon ini... sambil mempersiapkan diri... taon depan bruum...langsung daptar =D!
Sundown marathon
30 Mei 2009
Disponsori sama Adidas... slurp... pas daptar dapet kaos tanpa lengan Adidas (you wanna show those arms!), en pas finish dapet kaos lagi. Upside-nya lombanya malem .. jadi nda panas... downside-nya.. ini bener2 lari 42 km (matek... Jakarta-Tangerang aja 27+ km). PD? Well... lari selalu menjadi kelemahan gw, tapi pede siy bisa finish (di ITB lari pas matkul OR aja muntah, lari 2x muntah 2x) soale di-iming-imingi kaos adidas. Tapi pemikirannya gimana bekal di jalannya ya? Impossible kalo nda minum? Ato memang nda minum? Nah lho....
Safari Run
7 Feb 2009
Lari di kebon binatang! 6.2 km.... piece of cake ini mah... emang intended-nya buat family run. Sebenernya sih berminat.. sayang udah tutup pendaftarannya.
Vertical Marathon
8 Feb 2009
Lari naek gedong.....hahaha menarik2... jadi inget pas ikutan ospek klub pencinta alam di SMUK1... disuruh lari naek turun 7 lt (10++x kalo nda salah).. sampe kadang2 bawa tandu segala lagi. Need to get master degree on StairMaster neh.
SAFRA Biathlon
Organized also by Singapore Navy! SAFRA... hmm... sepertinya usaha pemerintah Singapura untuk membuat National Service (main reason why you DO NOT want to be a Singaporean) menjadi menarik. Since it is biathlon, lombanya cuma 2... lari 10km en berenang 1.5km. Hmm swim trialnya 1.5 km under 40 menit di kolam renang. Gw mah pede yang ini... bwahahahaha! Masalahnya berenangnya di mana ini euy? Laout? Bersih kaga? Entar keminum Freddie Mercury lagi. Jujur neh... gw belum pernah berenang di laut... hihihihi...
Tri-Factor
Hahahaha ini obsesi terbesar... triathlon! banyak pilihan paket... en berenangnya ada sampe 3km... good..good...good. Kayanya sih gw pingin ngambil yang 1km... pingin ngeliat gimana sih berenang di laut itu. Sayang euy udah nda ada sepeda lagi. Padahal di Indo udah latian RPM hampir tiap hari... hihihihi...Kurang komplid deh jadinya.
Obsesi terbesar berenang masih di NUS. Ada kompetisi "mudah2-an" taonan, berenang 5km di bawah 3 jam (untungnya di kolam renang). Fiuuh masih harus banyak latian... terjauh di ITB aja 4km. Kadang2 jadi bertanya2... orang laen udah bikin anak koq gw masih cebar cebur ya.... Memang susah kalo diri ini punya banyak obsesi... jadinya obesitas....
Credits to Gold's Gym SMS en my best buddy Erick yang udah maksa gw ikutan (pas berenti kerja: "Dy... kayanya lu perlu ikutan fitness deh... tuh di SMS baru buka"). It really helps with my "biasanya muntah activities" : running and cycling. I really miss classes, instructors, and people there.
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